“We don't fall out of love—we just finally see the person we were ignoring all along”
Agree
- Red flags were always visible
- Infatuation blinds us to reality
- We project fantasies onto people
- Person never changed, perception did
Disagree
- People genuinely change over time
- Love naturally evolves and sometimes fades
- This removes responsibility for relationship failure
- Initial connection can be authentic
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