“The person you are in a relationship is a performance—your 'true self' would be unlovable”
Agree
- Raw human nature is selfish
- Manners are calculated suppression
- Complete honesty destroys relationships
- Everyone curates their acceptable persona
Disagree
- Real intimacy means showing everything
- Your choices ARE your true self
- This justifies never being vulnerable
- Authenticity creates deepest bonds
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