“Every person who loves you is just loving their idea of you—nobody actually sees who you really are”
Agree
- Projection defines all human perception
- We're unknowable even to ourselves
- Love is always partially narcissistic
- True understanding is impossible
Disagree
- Real intimacy means being truly seen
- Over time people reveal authentic selves
- This denies possibility of connection
- Cynicism masquerades as wisdom
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