“The person you marry is fundamentally unknowable—we're all just making educated guesses about strangers”
Agree
- People change constantly throughout life
- We can't access others' internal experience
- Everyone hides parts of themselves
- Years together still reveal new unknowns
Disagree
- Deep intimacy creates genuine understanding
- Actions reveal true character over time
- Shared experience builds real knowledge
- Cynicism isn't the same as wisdom
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