“The version of someone you fall in love with doesn't exist—we're all curating illusions during courtship”
Agree
- Everyone presents idealized versions initially
- Real person emerges after commitment secured
- Courtship is performance and marketing
- Disappointment is inevitable after illusion fades
Disagree
- People can be genuine from the start
- Growth and change aren't deception
- This excuses bad behavior as natural
- Some couples maintain authenticity throughout
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