“People don't change fundamentally—if you're waiting for someone to become different, you're in love with a fantasy”
Agree
- Core personality remains stable across life
- Waiting is wasting your life
- People show you who they are immediately
- Change comes from within not external pressure
Disagree
- People genuinely grow and evolve
- Life experiences transform us deeply
- Support helps people become better versions
- This cynicism prevents hope and partnership
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